Lessons from Soccer

Almost all the soccer I watched in the last 3 years was either the World Cup, Real Madrid or some of the English Premier league.  When I watch them play, and these are some of the best players in the world, I sometimes get frustrated with their bad decisions or physical errors they make.

Last Saturday the boys had their first real games for AYSO.  We had been at Lake Powell the week before so they missed a couple of games.

Andrej played first, he is 6 and playing on a U7 team.  Watching a bunch of 6 year olds play can be a little frustrating.  However, almost all of them seem like they are having fun, and the game resembles very little of what I am used to watching.  Andrej did well, he has a defender’s mentality.  It reminds me a little of how my brother played.  When Andrej was striker for the last quarter he kept tracking back on defense.  Even after his mom said she would buy him a slurpee every day of the week if he scored!

Petr’s game came after lunch.  For an 8-year-old, he has a really good head for the game.  He is almost always in the right place and keeps his head up looking for where to pass the ball.  However, he does not seem to have any passion for it.  His head is in the game, but not his heart.  I had to exercise a lot of self-restraint in letting the coach coach and stay silent on the sidelines.  As Cammy and I were discussing it during the game she said, “I am sure this is how God feels when He sees us living our lives.”

Another great lesson from life learned by parenting.  How often are we doing many of the right things, being in the right place at the right time, only to have no passion to “go get it,” as we are supposed to?  Another opportunity to excel passes us by. A chance to be a part of something great.  Praise Him who has more patience and self-restraint than I do.

Petr really did well, and in the last quarter he was playing left midfield.  He was at the back post on every run forward, perfectly positioned for a cross.  One did come his way and he had a good shot forcing the keeper to parry it just outside the post.  If only he was more confident with his left foot, the whole right side of the goal was open…(Yes, I am looking in the spiritual mirror as I say that…)

Piles of poo

A couple of years ago I went to a leadership conference here in Kenya.  One of the speakers was a Kenyan professor.  He was great.  There was a story he told that will always stick with me.  He was talking about development in Africa and how we need to understand the problem before we offer a solution.  And to understand the problem, you have to understand the people.  However, I took something completely different away from his talk.

He told of a village in Africa where an NGO came in and found that there were a lot of health problems.  They came to the correct conclusion that most of the health issues were caused by sanitation problems.  The people used “the bush” in the mornings to take care of business.  This was contaminating the water supply, which in turn was getting people sick and creating a vicious cycle.  So they decided they would spend some money and dig pit toilets for the village.  This they accomplished in no time and had nice outhouses build over the pits.  Content with having fixed the problem they moved on.

Six months later they came back to asses how things had improved.  The first thing they found was that the pit toilets were clean, too clean in fact.  They had never been used. They did not understand, and the reason was because they had not taken the time to understand the people before they offered a solution.  That was the professor’s point.  However he went on to explain why they had not used the pit toilets.  In their culture, their standing in the community had a lot to do with the height of their “pile” in the morning.  The taller it was, the better.  A tall pile is an indication of two things.  First it is an indication that you are eating well.  You can afford to eat a lot.  Second, it is an indication of health.  When you are sick, your pile fails the slump test.

My first thought was, “Haha, let’s all laugh at these silly people.” But as I spent time contemplating it, I realized, I have a lot of piles of poo in my life.  Things that seem so important, but really are just a piece of poo.  What is the eternal value of a nice lawn (I used to be really proud of my lawn)?  You water it, it grows, you cut it, and you cannot even eat it.  How much time did I spend fixing every little thing on my house?  I even had computerized lighting.  Cool, but not of great eternal value.

I wanted to write about the significance of the tools God gives us.  I am not saying we should abandon all the things God has given us to accomplish His tasks.  But we need to realize what is really important.  So much of what we do is to impress people.  It has little real meaning outside of that.  That is why their pile of poo was so important to them and they would never put it in a pit.

What is your pile of poo?

Ushirika ya Kabete

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Ushirika is a noun that means the concept of sharing. It is the word used to translate fellowship.
We were at Kabete this Sunday. I had wanted to go there for a while to show them how grateful we are for their fellowship. I preached through most of Philippians and it seemed well received. (You will have to ask Cammy how her long it seemed…)  I finished with a contrast of mataki (wants) and mahitaji (needs).  I am enjoying being able to correct and help the translator.
I mentioned that when we want to communicate how we love someone we are limited to the languages we know. If you know me well you know one of my “love languages” is barbeque. So after church I unloaded our grill and I roasted about 18 pounds of beef fillet. The ladies sang together as I cooked and the pastor had arranged so mukimo and kachumbari. We ate a great meal together.  It felt awesome and there we quite a few mentions of the church in Acts 2. 
Right as we finished eating, the rain came. We moved inside the church and talked for a while waiting out the rain. All the kids were playing. It was great.
When the rain broke we prayed, received their thanks and headed out. I had a lot of help loading up the grill. On the drive home the rain came back heavier than I can remember here. Then it started hailing! It even got to be pretty big hail too. (We are less than 80 miles from the equator.)

Tools

Working for the last three years in an aircraft hangar and managing a help desk and auto repair shop has given me a lot of contact with tools and the people who use them.

What is a tool?

tool (noun)
1. A device, such as a saw, used to perform or facilitate manual or mechanical work.
2. Something regarded as necessary to the carrying out of one’s occupation or profession.
3. Something used in the performance of an operation; an instrument.

Tools are to be used to help accomplish a task.  Tools can be necessary, as some jobs cannot be done without them.

God gives us a lot of tools to perform the tasks He has given us to do. Money is a tool, as is our social standing.  Maybe you have a house or a car, these are tools.  They are meant to help you to get His work done.

When the tool becomes the focus and not the task at hand, we are lost.  Seeking money as a tool is good, seeking money for money is bad. Whenever we take our eyes off the goal and focus on the tools God has given us to get there, we are going the wrong way.

It is not about what you have, but why you have it.

What is my motivation?

It is not about what I do, by why I do it.

Unified field theory

Why are you making the decisions you are making?  Each and every decision is based on priorities.

And you shall  love the LORD your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength.’ This is the first commandment. – Mark 12:30

Why are you doing it?

Is everything you do motivated by your love for God?  Is all your life, everything you have, committed to Him?

What are you doing right now?  Is that in line with loving God with all that is in you?

I do not actually know how many times I have linked to Matt 6:33, but it applies here as well.  I feel like I am being beat like a drum, so if I sound like one, the same tone over and over, you know why.

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Standing in the community

I have struggled understanding how certain things work here.  At times I am unable to figure out why people do certain things.  “What motivates them to do that?” I ask myself.

Over my time here I have often explained to Kenyans how life is very different in USA.  I continue to tell them that, while often confusing at first, there is an easy way to figure it out.  Follow the money.  It is a sad commentary on my culture, but fairly plain most of the time.  If you want to figure something out, follow the money.  This actually makes laws and regulations easier.  There is a common currency for motivating people, and the currency is currency.

Not so here.  Money is often a motivator, but not nearly the root cause as it commonly is in USA.  Why is that?  What is different?

The conclusion I have come to after 3 years here is that it is not really about money anywhere.  It is, just about always, about standing in the community.  It is just that in USA, one’s standing in their community is most often expressed in dollars.

We require social interaction.  This is why the author of Hebrews wanted to make sure people continued doing it in the church (Heb 10:25).  Fellowship is often mentioned in the New Testament. God made us social creatures.  It is a fact of our nature that we have to belong to a community.  It is from that starting point that the fallen man takes hold.  Pride enters the equation and it no longer becomes about fellowship, but our place in that community.

“How do I raise my standing in the community?”  The majority of man’s actions can be accounted for by that simple question.  (The other big one is man seeking comfort for himself.)  Agape love should be a motivator, but that happens in far too rare circumstances.

If you want to understand a culture, you must first understand how it determines the standing of its members.  The outward appearance is the first thing that usually places someone, physical traits, clothing, hair etc..  Here, shoes are a huge factor.  What kind of shoes is he wearing?  How old are they?  Are they clean?  Many times I have greeted someone to find them taking a quick glance at my feet.  My skin color here also has a lot of meaning, which, fortunately for me, makes up for my lack of “taste” in shoes (I am motivated by that other thing, comfort, when it comes to shoes.) In some groups tattoos raise their standing while in others it lowers it.  How you behave is also has a lot to do with it.  Look around sometime, you can identify many different communities that measure people in different ways.

This becomes really important when it comes to sharing the gospel with someone.  You need to identify what community they come from and know how that community measures people.  Of course the gospel is good and necessary for everyone regardless from where they come.  However, if you are going to bring the gospel to them you have to do it in such a way (culturally translate it) that it is presented as superior to what they have now.  Otherwise you are just going to inoculate them against the gospel.  This can be very difficult if someone’s community is completely based in something antithetical to the gospel.

The gospel is superior, but that is a difficult sell to the guy down the street with the forehead callus.  His standing in the community will be severely affected.  You can make similar observations with people of most faiths as their standing in their community is often tied to their beliefs.

What is your standing in your community?  How much time and effort do you spend on trying to raise that position?  Would that time and resources be better spent another way?  I know it would… but we all do it.  We can be different.  In fact, we are commanded to be:

And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God. Romans 12:2 NKJV

Choices

I mentioned before I would post my notes, here they are.

Who are you?  Not your name, not what you do, where you come from.
What makes you who you are? – You are the sum of choices, some made for you, but ultimately you are responsible for what you do with your life.

Deuteronomy 30:19 I call heaven and earth as witnesses today against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing; therefore choose life, that both you and your descendants may live;

Galatians 6:7-8 Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap. For he who sows to his flesh will of the flesh reap corruption, but he who sows to the Spirit will of the Spirit reap everlasting life.

Your choices may seem mundane, meaningless.  What will you wear, what will you eat?

How do you make decisions?  An important question when you realize that it will define you.

Humanities: The study of what makes us human.  Specifically human, not an animal, not connected with race, gender etc.

What makes us different?  We were created in the image of God.

Genesis 1:26-27 Then God said, “Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, over all[b] the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.” So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.

How are we in God’s image?  What do we have that no other creature has?  No other creature has a free will.  How do we use that will?  We make choices based on values.

What is important to you?  That is how you make decisions, whether conscious or not.
Decision tree: Does it affect priority #1? Move to #2, and so on.

You can look at your life, your decisions and determine what your priorities are.

What is  most important decision you will ever make?  Is that reflected in the priorities of your life?

Ephesians 4:14-15 that we should no longer be children, tossed to and fro and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the trickery of men, in the cunning craftiness of deceitful plotting, but, speaking the truth in love, may grow up in all things into Him who is the head—Christ

Who is in control of your life?  Are you being blown about or are you taking charge of the responsibility that God has given you?  You are the pilot, are you following the orders of the Captain, or just going with the flow?

How do we set our priorities straight?
Matthew 6:25-34
If we have priority #1 set, we do not need to worry about #2-#99.

Romans 12:1-2 I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.

We set our minds straight by realizing we must give it all up to God who knows better.  We must seek His way regardless of the apparent cost.

Matthew 6:19-21 “Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal; but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.”

“He is no fool who parts with that which he cannot keep, when he is sure to be recompensed with that which he cannot lose.” Philip Henry (1631-1696)

1 Corinthians 3:11-15 For no other foundation can anyone lay than that which is laid, which is Jesus Christ. Now if anyone builds on this foundation with gold, silver, precious stones, wood, hay, straw, each one’s work will become clear; for the Day will declare it, because it will be revealed by fire; and the fire will test each one’s work, of what sort it is. If anyone’s work which he has built on it endures, he will receive a reward. If anyone’s work is burned, he will suffer loss; but he himself will be saved, yet so as through fire.

Scaffolding can be necessary, but it is temporary.  Do not invest in scaffolding.

Choose right.  Choose God’s Kingdom.  Tunajenga mfalme wa Mungu.

 

 

Who are you? Not your name, not what you do, where you come from.

What makes you who you are? – You are the sum of choices, some made for you, but ultimately you are responsible for what you do with your life.

 

Deuteronomy 30:19 I call heaven and earth as witnesses today against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing; therefore choose life, that both you and your descendants may live;

 

Galatians 6:7-8 Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap. For he who sows to his flesh will of the flesh reap corruption, but he who sows to the Spirit will of the Spirit reap everlasting life.

 

Your choices may seem mundane, meaningless. What will you wear, what will you eat?

 

How do you make decisions? An important question when you realize that it will define you.

 

Humanities: The study of what makes us human. Specifically human, not an animal, not connected with race, gender etc.

 

What makes us different? We were created in the image of God.

 

Genesis 1:26-27 Then God said, “Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, over all[b] the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.” So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.

 

How are we in God’s image? What do we have that no other creature has? No other creature has a free will. How do we use that will? We make choices based on values.

 

What is important to you? That is how you make decisions, whether conscious or not.

Decision tree: Does it affect priority #1? Move to #2, and so on.

 

You can look at your life, your decisions and determine what your priorities are.

 

What is most important decision you will ever make? Is that reflected in the priorities of your life?

 

Ephesians 4:14-15 that we should no longer be children, tossed to and fro and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the trickery of men, in the cunning craftiness of deceitful plotting, but, speaking the truth in love, may grow up in all things into Him who is the head—Christ

 

Who is in control of your life? Are you being blown about or are you taking charge of the responsibility that God has given you? You are the pilot, are you following the orders of the Captain, or just going with the flow?

 

How do we set our priorities straight?

Matthew 6:25-34

If we have priority #1 set, we do not need to worry about #2-#99.

 

Romans 12:1-2 I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.

 

We set our minds straight by realizing we must give it all up to God who knows better. We must seek His way regardless of the apparent cost.

 

Matthew 6:19-21 “Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal; but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.”

 

He is no fool who parts with that which he cannot keep, when he is sure to be recompensed with that which he cannot lose.” Philip Henry (1631-1696)

 

1 Corinthians 3:11-15 For no other foundation can anyone lay than that which is laid, which is Jesus Christ. Now if anyone builds on this foundation with gold, silver, precious stones, wood, hay, straw, each one’s work will become clear; for the Day will declare it, because it will be revealed by fire; and the fire will test each one’s work, of what sort it is. If anyone’s work which he has built on it endures, he will receive a reward. If anyone’s work is burned, he will suffer loss; but he himself will be saved, yet so as through fire.

 

Scaffolding can be necessary, but it is temporary. Do not invest in scaffolding.

 

Choose right. Choose God’s Kingdom. Tunajenga ufalme ya Mungu.

Yesterday’s Entertainment

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I decided to walk to and from the hangar yesterday. On the way home on “Test Hill” I saw this. This trash truck failed the test. A lot of trucks fail but most are not this bad.
It made me wonder when God is testing me if my failures are this catastrophic or smell quite so bad.

Back Through London, Back to Kenya

I ended up on a later flight out of Newark than I had previously planned, and this left me with precious few minutes to traverse Terminal 5 (From A to B) at London’s Heathrow Airport.  It is a good thing I kept my carryon light.  I ran up the second longest escalator at Terminal 5, it is 4 stories.  Then I ran down the longest one, 5 stories.  It was like being weightless.  Fun times…

I made it back to Nairobi and had a difficult time going through customs.  I did have a lot of expensive equipment for OFM so it was not completely unexpected.  In the end, the agent was very amenable and after 45 minutes I was out.

Since I had been gone for so long from the boys we decided on Wednesday we would head to Village Market and maybe go to miniature golf or bowling.  However when we got to the University roundabout, the students were protesting and no one could pass through the round about.  Because of the nature of the road (lack of) design in Nairobi, going another way would have added at least an hour to the trip.  It was almost 1PM already and we were all hungry.  So we diverted elsewhere, “Karibu Africa.”  The boys did not mind much as they got to play at Children’s World.  Cammy and I went shopping nearby in Toi Market for Sam’s wedding on April 9.

Sam is our pastor’s eldest son.  He is getting married on our 11th anniversary.  Andrej has been asked to be a pageboy.  He needed an all black outfit.  They are having a coat made so Cammy got his measurements while I was away.  We were able to find some second hand trousers and a dress shirt that are in very good shape.  Cammy also found a second hand dress.  I was in a huge mall in New York on Saturday and I even went into Macy’s (to find a TSA luggage lock).  So I think because of that I was willing to pay more for stuff, so I probably over paid.  We got the three items for about $18.

Cammy and I met a guy name Joseph as we were leaving Toi Market.  When I told him, “Mungu akubariki (God bless you)” as we left he asked if I was saved.  I told him yes and he shared that he believed in Jesus but had not committed his life.  So we got to share with him for a while.  We exchanged numbers and talked later in the afternoon.  He invited us to his home up near Kikuyu Town.  We will see how God leads in that.  Sometimes we have no idea where our real ministry is.

The roller coasters of life

Over Thanksgiving we went to spend time with Cammy’s relatives in Henderson, NV.  A friend of the family works at Circus Circus and they were kind enough to get us tickets to the Adventure Dome. We had a wonderful time and the boys got to ride on a lot of the rides.  This is a video of them on a little roller coaster.  Their Nonnie was nice enough to buy the video, she said it was OK because she did not have to pay for admission.

It was a fun and interesting experience that brought back the memory of our trip to Disneyland with the boys other grandparents in December of 2009.  At Disneyland, Petr was afraid of going on every single ride…every one.  Each time we got in line he would exclaim, “I do not want to do this, dad!”  It was a tough time for me, as a father, but I made him go on each one, sometimes even carrying him so he did not have a choice.  At the end of almost each one, he would then say, “Let’s do it again!’

At the end of a long day there at Disneyland we decided time was almost up and we would go on one more ride.  As we headed to get in line Petr once again said, “I do not want to go on it, dad.”  I stopped walking and pulled him aside.  “Petr,” I said, “How many rides did you want to go on today.”  “None,” he replied, honestly.  So I asked, “And how many did you like after you went on it?” And honestly again, to his credit he said, “All of them.”

He did the exact same thing at the Adventure Dome.

I wanted to be frustrated with him.  He could see what was happening.  He knew the answers to the questions, yet he continued to fight what would in the end be a good time.  But then I realized that, once again, I was looking into a mirror.  Petr was behaving just as I do with God all the time.  God tells me, “Hey, we are going to do this new thing, it is going to be great.”  I refuse, drag my feet, complain.  And once it is all over I often say, “That was great, let’s do it again!”

Some things in life are scary.  Many things are hard. Sometimes, a loving father forces you to do things you do not want to do, and sometimes those things are really great.